Christina Applegate plays Jen Harding, the grieving widow who is determined to find her husband's killer — and could perhaps use an anger management class or five. In an attempt to begin healing, she attends a support group and meets Judy Linda Cardellini , a free-spirited artist who's struggling to get a handle on her own grief. Bound by their trauma, the two women forge a fast friendship and plow through their inner demons together. The Advocate sat down with the creator and showrunner of Dead to Me, Liz Feldman, who ponders why it still feels rare to see a nuanced relationship between two women unfold on-screen. The Advocate: Why did you want to tell this story about grieving women?
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Christina Applegate plays Jen Harding, the grieving widow who is determined to find her husband's killer — and could perhaps use an anger management class or five. In an attempt to begin healing, she attends a support group and meets Judy Linda Cardellini , a free-spirited artist who's struggling to get a handle on her own grief. Bound by their trauma, the two women forge a fast friendship and plow through their inner demons together.
The Advocate sat down with the creator and showrunner of Dead to Me, Liz Feldman, who ponders why it still feels rare to see a nuanced relationship between two women unfold on-screen. The Advocate: Why did you want to tell this story about grieving women? And I was in grief because I had just turned 40 and my cousin died suddenly of a heart attack on my birthday. So it was just a moment in time that just felt very unfair and unexpected and deeply sad.
And at the same time I was going through my fertility struggles, trying to get pregnant and just not being successful at that. So it was very much inspired by just where I was.
I'm a comedian, so I can't help but look at even the darkest things through a comic lens. It's just how I cope with life. And I wanted to make a show that felt like life, that was funny when it needed to be funny and was sad when it needed to be sad, and a show that had twists and turns.
Honestly, just like life does. There are things that happen on a weekly basis, that happened to me on a weekly basis that make me think, if I wrote this nobody would believe it.
And so I just wanted to try to make a show that reflected where I was. And where I was, was on this emotional roller coaster. What was grief's role in the friendship between Jen and Judy? I think Jen and Judy are very different types of women. They look at the world differently, they approach their day-to-day lives completely differently, but they had this incredible shared bond in grief.
There's a power in commiserating with somebody who really understands what you're going through emotionally. You don't need to have background with each other. You don't need to know every little thing about the other person. But you know where their heart is, and that's an incredible connection. And that's what I was trying to explore with their relationship. Before the twist of episode 1, I fully expected some kind of, like, romance to happen between the women.
Was that a lead-on or was I projecting? I mean, I'm conscious of it because I'm a lesbian. And I knew that if I was watching this relationship blossom and unfold, that's what I would be thinking. I didn't mind the misdirect, just because there is an intimacy, there is a romance in friendship. Or at least there can be. Especially when you're first meeting somebody that you have a really profound kind of unspoken connection with. There's a romance in that, and I don't see that often portrayed in friendships, especially female friendships on TV or in film.
But it's so often that female friendships are laced with this, like, cattiness or the competition, and I wanted to show the true heart connection that you can have in friendship. And I didn't mind if people thought maybe that's where it was going. And I figured at least a small part of the audience that knows me and knows my work and knows my perspective and paradigm, I figured that's what some people would think.
I think that's part of the fun of the show is that nothing really is what you think it is. Everything kind of turns on you. Why are nuanced female friendships still so rare to see on TV? You know, I don't know. My guess is because so much of what you see on television is written from a male perspective.
Maybe I'm just blessed to have some really incredible deep friendships in my own life that I can draw upon and take inspiration from.
And that's what I did. I mean, that friendship that you see in Dead to Me is inspired by my closest relationships with my female friends. And it's from a real place. And I don't know, maybe not enough writers have wanted to explore friendship from a nonsalacious point of view, just to explore the, like, beauty and simplicity of two people who really connect.
Every episode of Dead to Me is directed by a woman or a gay man. Was that purposeful? Every single writer in that room was either a woman — there was one straight man [Anthony King], but he had lost his mother at a young age and he just was able to lend something so personal to the story that it just felt like he needed to be there. And then every other writer was a woman or Abe Sylvia, who's the gay man.
And I got to choose those things. I got to choose the writers, I got to choose the directors, and it was very intentional. I wanted the show to be seen through a female lens, from a female perspective, because that's who I wanted it to be for. This is really a show for women, and it's amazing that men have seemed to really connect with it as well.
No offense to men, but this was really like my ode to women. With women running the set, was the vibe different than others you've been on previously? What's funny is that, this is going to sound a little crazy, but I had never really been on a set like this.
I come from multicamera television. Multicamera television is a very different beast. And no, I had never been on a set that was run by women, directed by women, starring women. And I don't think our two stars had ever been on a set like that either. It was new for all of us. It was like this entirely fresh way of making TV, and very early on both Christina and Linda sort of looked around and they thought They'd never been on a show that was created by, run by, and directed by women.
And I don't want to speak for them, but I remember them looking around with incredible feeling I know that it felt like we were doing something special. To all of us. And I really am very mindful of fostering a very supportive set. I lead from love, and I think that that carries through every day on set. Hopefully, everybody's all comfortable, like they could say anything they needed to at any time. Both Linda and Christina are producers on the show, so they were empowered to make this as good of an experience for themselves as they could, and it was, it was really an incredible experience making this show together.
And I think so much of that is because we just worked really well together. There was just a ton of mutual respect. The first two episodes, the pilot and the second episode, were directed by Amy York Rubin, who is also gay. And my right-hand person on set was Abe Sylvia, who is also gay.
So, especially during the beginning of production, like basically everybody in charge was a gay person. And, though the show isn't queer in story, I hope that you can feel there's like just some queer blood running through the veins of the show.
But yeah, I very intentionally One of the first lines in the show is Judy saying, "I think gay is beautiful," because I wanted to just get it out there from the very beginning of like, that's the ethos here. Listen, I was definitely blessed with some kind of otherworldly luck on this show. But I will say, that because I allowed myself to tell a story that was real, not autobiographical per se, but real, the feelings represented are real.
It was cathartic for me to write this; it's coming from a very vulnerable place. It's one thing to come up with a story to decide to, you know, to decide to dig deep and tell something that really expressed a piece of you. But then you need those partners who will give you the shot to show that story to the world. All Rights Reserved. Search form Search. Scroll To Top. The show's lesbian creator, Liz Feldman, talks about the inherent romance in female friendships. By Taylor Henderson.
So your husband was killed in a hit-and-run. What's next? Who better to tell our stories than us? Dead to Me is on Netflix now. Watch the trailer below:. Latest News Transgender.
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Many countries have laws that prohibit donations of blood or tissue for organ transplants from men who have sex with men MSM , a classification of men who engage or have engaged in the past in sex with other men, regardless of whether they identify themselves as bisexual , gay or otherwise. Restrictions on donors are sometimes called "deferrals", since blood donors who are found ineligible may be found eligible at a later date.
However, many deferrals are indefinite meaning that donation may not be accepted at any point in the future, thus constituting a de facto ban. Restrictions vary from country to country and in some countries practice of protected sex or periods of abstinence are not considered. The restrictions affect these men and, in some cases, any female sex partners. They do not otherwise affect other women, including women who have sex with women.
Many LGBT organizations view the restrictions on donation as based on homophobia and not based on valid medical concern since donations are rigorously tested to rule out donors that are infected with known viruses such as HIV , HPV , Hepatitis B , and Hepatitis C. They state the deferrals are based on stereotypes. Advocates for change to MSM prohibitions point out that screening of donors should focus on sexual behavior as well as safe sex practices since many MSM may always have protected sex, be monogamous , or be in other low risk categories.
There are massive amounts of residual fear about blood product contamination stemming from the contaminated blood scandals, which have caused thousands of deaths due to HIV and Hepatitis C in patients requiring a blood transfusion. People who contracted HIV from a contaminated blood transfusion include Isaac Asimov , who received a blood transfusion following a cardiac surgery. This list shows countries that had restrictions on blood donors.
A comparison of confirmed HIV positive blood donations before and after the change did not see a statistically significant difference. The Red Cross will re-submit their application to reduce the deferral period to six months in Italy, Latvia, Poland, Russia and Spain are the only European countries that don't have deferral policies for men who have sex with men.
The donation is allowed if the donor hasn't had a risky sexual encounter, but not depending on the sexual orientation of the donor. However this does not apply to Northern Ireland, which still has a 12 month deferral period in place.
In Ireland, men who have sex with men MSM may donate blood if they have not engaged in oral or anal sex with another man at least 12 months prior to a donation.
This policy came into effect from 16 January He claims this is in breach of EU law. He said that both failed to consider the length of time between a donor's last sexual experience and the end of a "window period" in which infections are sometimes not detected. Heneghan's previous sexual activity posed no risk of infection, according to HSE-approved advice and he said the service had no evidence upon which it could legitimately impose a life-long ban on him donating blood.
Later that week the Minister for Health Simon Harris agreed to the recommendations and announced the reduction would take place. However no timeline was reported for the implementation of the new policies.
However he also criticised the new 12 month deferral policy on MSM and called on Ireland's Health Minister to initiate a review of the IBTS and replace the 12 month deferral period for MSM with no deferral or a 3 month deferral on all donors following sexual intercourse. On 20 May , Heneghan 27 initiated a fresh legal challenge in the High Court against the blanket deferral on men who have had oral or anal sex with another man in the previous month period.
Heneghan claims he cannot understand the reasoning behind the IBTS policy and argues that the questionnaire does not enable the IBTS to make a full evaluation of the level of risk presented by an individual donor due to their sexual behaviour.
He claims that a far less onerous restriction could be imposed rather than the month deferral, which would protect blood recipients. The case is due to return to the court in July The man, who has chosen to have his complaints examined by the Commission anonymously, is alleging the ban in both jurisdictions violates a number of European Union laws, including two European Union Directives covering the standards of quality and safety for the collection of blood by EU member states, as well as provisions contained in both the EU Charter of Fundamental Rights and the European Convention on Human Rights.
The Commission has informed the man his complaints will now be considered in light of EU law. In Finland, the parliamentary ombudsman launched an investigation on the possible unconstitutionality of the lifetime ban in January In June , it was concluded that the ban was not unlawful in Finland as it is based on "appropriately reasoned epidemiological information" and because it is related to sexual behaviour rather than sexual orientation. The ombudsman added that people over the age of 65 and people who lived in Britain during the bovine spongiform encephalopathy mad cow disease outbreak are also screened out during blood donor interviews.
In December , the Finnish Red Cross blood service announced it was lifting the ban and introducing a one-year deferral instead.
Since 10 July , France implemented a 1-year deferral period policy on all gay and bisexual men donating blood. Since , the New Zealand Blood Service NZBS had deferred males who have had oral or anal intercourse, with or without protection, with another male for five years.
From the formation of the NZBS in to , the deferral period had been ten years, but reduced to five years following an independent review of blood donation criteria in which found no significant difference in risk to the blood supply for deferral periods of five years compared to ten years. In , the NZBS dropped the ban period from 5 years to one year following the recommendation of Medsafe.
The new 1 year deferral has been in effect since 15 December Females who engage in sexual intercourse with a male who has had sex with another male are also deferred for twelve months.
In the US, the current guidance from the U. This has been so since December Female sexual partners of MSM are deferred for one year since the last exposure. This is the same policy used for any sexual partner of someone in a high risk group. The policy was first put in place in by the FDA, which regulates blood donations to profit and non-profit organizations. This is achieved by screening potential donors for high risk behaviors through questionnaires and interviews before blood is taken, and subsequent laboratory testing on samples of donated blood.
In the earliest years of the AIDS epidemic, there were no reliable tests for the virus, which justified blanket bans on blood donations from groups at high risk of acquiring or having HIV, including MSM. In , early tests using the ELISA method looked for antibodies, which are the immune system's response to the virus.
However, there is a window period when using this method in which a person who has been infected with HIV is able to spread the disease but may test negative for the virus. This window period can be as long as three to six months,  with an average of 22 days. In developing countries, these tests are often the only method used to screen donated blood for HIV.
To cover the window period resultant from the use of these tests, donors are also screened for high risk behaviors, one of which is a history of same-sex sexual activity among male potential donors. Other groups with similar restrictions include commercial sex workers, injecting drug users, and people resident in countries with a high HIV prevalence such as sub-Saharan Africa. Newer tests look for the virus itself, such as the p24 antigen test, which looks for a part on the surface of the virus, and Nucleic acid tests NAT , which look for the genetic material of the virus.
With these tests, the window period is shorter, with an average duration of 12 days. Risks are also associated with a non-MSM donors testing positive for HIV, which can have major implications as the donor's last donation could have been given within the window period for testing and could have entered the blood supply, potentially infecting blood product recipients.
An incident in in New Zealand saw a non-MSM donor testing positive for HIV and subsequently all blood products made with the donor's last blood donation had to be recalled.
Objections to the restrictions, including those from the American Medical Association  and the American Red Cross, are generally based on the idea that improvements in testing and other safeguards have reduced the risk from transfusion transmitted HIV to an acceptable level. Further advocating for change stems from the fact that the ban is a blanket ban encompassing all men who have had sex with another man, even with protection and even if the HIV status of these men's partners is shown beyond doubt to be negative.
Advocates for change point out that a promiscuous straight male is a higher-risk donor than a gay or bisexual man in a monogamous relationship, but the former will usually be allowed to donate blood. Following a mass shooting targeting a gay nightclub in June , there were reported expressions of frustration and disapproval by a number of gay and bisexual men who were forbidden to donate blood to victims, with LGBT activists across the country and a group of Democratic lawmakers  urging the ban to be lifted.
The FDA later said it had no plans of changing the regulation and will reevaluate its policies "as new scientific information becomes available". In the United States . In , Welsh writer and poet RJ Arkhipov exhibited a poetry series written with his own blood as ink in protest of the MSM blood donor restrictions.
His poem Inkwell discusses the shame and stigma surrounding "gay blood". In the European Court of Human Rights took up a case of a French citizen who was prevented from donating blood. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. Part of a series on Discrimination General forms.
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